Vampires: In real life they may not have fangs, but man can they drain the life out of you….
A person who posses the ability to suck all of the positive energy out of someone. They do this through negative comments, or by mere prescense alone.
The Emotional vampire bleeds you of your positive energy, they suck the fun and life out of the room,draining the joy and motivation you have worked on building up in your life. Now truth be told we all have the potential for being this creature from time to time ,that is why it is important that you get a grip of your predominate thoughts(the type of thoughts that you allow to occur regularly), so check yourself! Be sure to avoid these people at all costs you don’t need them in your life. if it is unavoidable here are some tips for dealing with them. There are 5 main types, and you can count on there being hybrids of the different types with most of the ones that you encounter. Grab a wooden stake ! – here they are:
Vampire 1: The Narcissist.
This vampire is grandiose, self-important, attention hogging, and hungry for admiration. They are often charming and intelligent–until their guru status is threatened.
Self-defense tips: Enjoy their good qualities, but keep your expectations realistic. Because their motto is “me-first,” getting angry or stating your needs won’t phase them. To get their cooperation, show how your request satisfies their self-interest.
Vampire 2: The Victim.
This vampire thinks the world is against them, and demands that others rescue them.
Self-defense tips: Don’t be their therapist, and don’t tell their to buck up. Limit your interactions, and don’t get involved in their self-pity.
Vampire 3: The Controller.
This vampire has an opinion about everything, thinks they know what’s best for you, has a rigid sense of right and wrong, and needs to dominate.
Self-defense tips: Speak up and be confident. Don’t get caught up in bickering over the small stuff. Assert your needs, and then agree to disagree.
Vampire 4: The Criticizer.
This vampire feels qualified to judge you, belittle you, and bolster their own ego by making you feel small and ashamed.
Self-defense tips: Don’t take what they says personally. Address a misplaced criticism directly. Don’t get defensive. Express appreciation for what’s useful. Bounce back with a massive dose of loving-kindness.
Vampire 5: The Splitter.
This vampire may treat you like their BFF one day, and then mercilessly attack you the next day when they feels wronged. They are often a threatening rageaholic who revels in keeping others on an emotional rollercoaster.
Self-defense tips: Establish boundaries and be solution-oriented. Avoid skirmishes, refuse to take sides, and avoid eye contact when their raging at you. Visualize a protective shield around you when you’re being emotionally attacked.
Judith Orloff, MD, is an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA. Her book, upon which these tips are based, is “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life.”
One of the best ways to bolster your ability to combat these kinds of people,is to grow your self confidence.
- Exercise. Improving your body does wonders for your confidence levels
- Mindset. Seek out Inspiring and motivational media to help you attract more joy into your life.
- Setting. Find people that are like minded and that want to see you succeed. You are the sum of the company you most keep.
You won’t always be able to avoid these energy draining people/attitudes, you can however be aware of the amount of time and energy you let them steal. there is a difference between someone thats having a bad moment and someone that has a bad habit. be ready to help the one and run from the other.
The thing to remember is this you will get out of people(more often than not) what you give to people(emotionally at least).so check yourself,and become a positive force in peoples lives.
Candid Coach ,Out!